WORDS THAT DESTROY RELATIONSHIP

Even the best relationships in the world today, sometimes experience no communication day or week.When emotions are running high, hurtful words can be said whichin ,any cases, one might be unable to come back from, as the saying goes; “When emotion goes up… intelligence goes down.”Most people are yet to realize that words, are the most powerful weapon known to man. When your partner uses hurtful words, it not only causes some sort of sadness, but immediately makes you feel like you are under anattack, you are being judged which in tun drives you into a defensive route.A relationship can easilygo down the slope with the constant use of these words, want to know the words, read on.

                            MUST
This immediately makesthe speaker sound like he is god over his or her partner. The word must, makes you seem like you are in complete control and only what you say must be followed or adhered to. A continual use of this word, will turn your partner off, as they would think they are stupid and their opinionsor abilities in situations are just downright dumb. For a much betterway of communicating your feelings use sentences such as; “Could you please….

                         EXPECT

Like I earlier said, words can break someone down especially when been accused of something. The word expect in a sentence to your partner sends an accusatory message which in turn puts that person in a defensive mode. Saying things like;‘I expected you too…” only makes the person been spoken to feel like a reject or a failure and arelationship here such word is used, will eventually break down sooner or later.

                        
                          ASSUME
This is another insulting word, to spit during an argument. When you make sentences like ‘I assumed you …” it simply means you feel the person is dumb to have done a certain thing, and calling another person dumb will only put a strain in that relationship. Yes, you have a blueprint as to how your partner should do things, but finding the right words to communicate those expectations will go a long way in solidifying your relationship.

                           SHOULD
Using the word should means you are assertingyour authority in a relationship which is believed to be on equal bases. Saying you should have, simply means you believe you are the king in the relationship and anything you say must be followed. This will only drive your partner away especially one whoknows his or her right and does not favor dominance and submissiveness in a relationship.

                             YOU
This word when spoken in a heated argument comes with an imaginary pointy finger. It can immediately makean already emotional or angered partner, go over the edge with the accusatory word and tone its being spoken with. Love your partner and is in no rush to seeing the end of the relationship, refrain fromusing words such as that. When you say;”You never do……’ it will only create a crack in your perfectly guarded relationship.